When we are totally aware of our conditioning (what has made us who we are), we can understand our whole consciousness, and this of course is of critical importance if we are to learn to achieve and experience true happiness.
But in order to be fully aware of our conditioning, we must recognize that all of our: desires, pleasures, fears, hopes, sorrows, inspirations, and joys in our life, emerge from our past memories. Our emotions are triggered when we are confronted through relationships and experiences and previous memories of both.
Because our memory is filled with unnecessary thoughts, feelings, and emotions of the past that do not serve our purpose, it is very easy for us to be removed from the present moment; we lose focus and attention because of our inability to manage our memory-driven emotions. We enter into a situation or experience and become distracted by the emotions we experience and we lose ourselves to them - focusing instead on the past rather than the present. In doing so, our consciousness becomes divided, causing internal friction.
So what can we do? Is it possible to entirely be aware of our whole consciousness and conditioning?
It is. But not without continual practice.
Practicing awareness allows us to slow down our thoughts and increase our attention. Self-awareness helps focus our attention to one-pointedness with integrity. Through these practices, we gain the ability to observe and understand the network of thoughts and beliefs that are stored in our memory. Step by step, uncovering layer by layer, we must learn to examine every thought, feeling and motive. When we fully commit to the process of self-understanding, then we allow every form of distortion (every emotion that pulls as away from the present moment) to flow without resistance. Allowing the memory-driven emotions to simply be, without engaging in them, and by paying complete attention to what is, we learn to be aware of our total consciousness, in which there is no friction within.
If you want to approach your personal problems more seriously, and gain more understanding of how the conditionings stored in our memory steal us from paying complete attention to our present moment, we invite you to come to our upcoming Monthly Meditation, on Sunday March 31st from 10:30am - 12:30pm at our Center. No experience or registration is necessary; there is only a $5.00 cash investment to attend.
We look forward to seeing you.
-Sri Madhu Sai
Travel is like an addiction and you can never, ever have enough of it. Travel is the only thing that you buy, that makes you richer.
Here we are, entering day 5 on our 2nd annual Happyness Center retreat in India. We are exploring the North this time (south last year) and I find myself feeling more comfortable in this intoxicating environment this year.
With every trip, the growth as an individual is profound. Travel stretches us like nothing else, especially transformational travel which is what The Happyness Center is 100% committed to. These fabulous retreats are not vacations, sitting on the beach and swimming up to the poolside bar (although that definitely has its appeal too at times). The “ Happyness Center Retreats “ are passionately committed to growth in every single direction – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. We are all encouraged to travel with an explorer’s open mind and be adaptable as we slowly get more comfortable in our surroundings . The humbler and grounded we become, the more love we get in return. . . and that all transfers perfectly to home with us in our real lives. Life after all , happens in relationship with others. The goal should be to travel inwards ( into our own selves) to make a difference in not only the health and happiness of ourselves , but those around us in our families, friendships, communities and hopefully in the world.
Yesterdays agenda was jam packed!
Happy New Year!
As we step into 2019, you have most likely found yourself setting goals and intentions for this next year and possibly wondering: "how am I going to keep these goals?" "How will I find success?" Or maybe you are asking yourself, "what do I need to learn about myself this year?" Or, "who do I want to become"? Or possibly, "what do I need to do to be happier?"
In order to achieve success, we must first be happy. And to achieve happiness, we must first be happy with ourselves. But to be happy with ourselves, we must first be able to accept ourselves and understand ourselves completely. Understanding ourselves is also what allows us to change our behaviors to become who we wish to be.
So then, how to we understand ourselves completely? We must be our own teacher, and our own student. We must be, however challenging it is, completely open to carefully observing and facing ourselves fiercly and in all honesty, holding nothing back. We must prepare ourselves to face truths about ourselves - whether they are beautiful or ugly; without running away, however guilty, anxious, or hard it feels. We must be willing to lay bare who we are, covering nothing up and no longer choose to only see the pleasant side of ourselves. We must learn to face ourselves with courage, and realize that our instinct is to lie to ourselves so that we can ignore or make peace with the parts of our selves that we do not like, or cannot accept.
If we aspire to find real solutions in our lives, to become true to our self and the best, most happiest version of our self, that it is of vital importance that we see ourselves entirely, and not just the parts that we like about ourselves.
So where to we begin the journey to observe, reflect, enquire and understand ourselves?
In our relationships. For the truth us that we can only observe ourselves in relationships because all life is relationships. Each of us exists in relation with other people, other things, and ideas. We can only see our thoughts, emotions, reactions and responses when we interact with other people and things; so it is only through these interactions that we can gain an understanding of our self.
Learning to see oneself wholly - without judgement and covering up of the uncomfortable - is one of the most challenging things you can do, but it is paramount to truly understanding and accepting yourself, which in turn allows you to be happy. For we cannot be happy as long as our happiness is dependant on material things, or the love, acceptance and validation of others. When our feeling about our self is dependant on anything other than our self, we can never truly take control of our own lives; our happiness will fluctuate with the emotions or choices of others and with our life circumstances.
It is possible to believe that we are in control of ourselves, but yet unknowingly attach some, if not all, of our current happiness and satisfaction on our current relationships or circumstances. Then, at the inevitable point that our circumstances fluctuate or change towards the negative, or someone lets us down, we lose our happiness. We then begin the search for new happiness elsewhere, a painful and tiring process.
If we can learn to seek kindness and love from within, we become more capable of navigating changes in circumstance or relationship with grace, love and joy, which minimizes the pain we experience in life and allows us to live in a continual state of happiness.
So then, to achieve true happiness we must look within, and to understand what it within, we must look at our self within relationship - with others, with objects, beliefs and ideas. This can be a challenging and daunting process and you may be unsure of where to begin.
We invite you to join us for our upcoming Monthly Meditation where we will meditate on and discuss the practice of looking within one's self for the loving kindness we need to accept and understand ourselves, that will in turn allow us to experience true happiness and success.